I am not sure if anything could be harder than a father giving his daughter away at a wedding. But I would like to argue that being the brother is pretty difficult. As a brother I feel like my responsibility is to stay strong, tall, and unforgiving to the men in my sisters’ lives. Thankfully, I had a bad view of my sister during the wedding ceremony. As she walked up the aisle I could not see her because of the people. I could not see her as she stood in front of Brad. It was the best thing that could happen.
If she was in my site, I don’t know if I could of stood strong. If I could of seen her, I would of been looking at the sister I watched in home videos for hours as I made the video for the rehearsal dinner. Like a dad would think, it was not a grown woman standing there, but a little girl I have grown up with. I didn’t want to avoid having tears or other emotions because I was unhappy, or didn’t approve. I honestly feel like I should never 100% approve of who my sister’s marry. I know what guys are like, so how could I possible believe any are good enough for them? So instead I stood there thanking the sun and people for blocking my view. I stood there looking at my parents and younger sister smile and cry. I got to see all of the people that impacted her life and mine. Family and friends all gathering for something that was beautiful to see. I was looking at my sister’s future husband. Seeing how much he resembled his own dad from the home videos, knowing that she was now going to be in good hands.
Then just as if it had just started, they were walking down the aisle together. It was amazing to see, and I don’t know if I could ever truly convey the emotions I felt that moment. The ceremony in itself was amazing, but I did not think I would enjoy everything else as much as I did. I am a bit of an introvert, so events like this are not my cup of tea. It is not often you can have everyone you know and care for at one place. Families might be around each other at holidays, but rarely are family and friends together like this. So the whole night I got to spend time with people I care about, celebrating the marriage of a sister and I suppose my new brother. (I believe this makes him my brother??)
It is almost impossible for me to try to understand what my sister was going through waiting for this moment. It is probably not an exaggeration to say she has spent years and years preparing for this moment. I don’t know if I would ever want to experience the stress of preparing for a wedding as a girl. As a guy the ceremony is so much easier to prepare for, especially the day of. It was incredible seeing how busy the women were, then looking at how relaxed all of the guys were. While we were outside smoking cigars or watching football, the women were getting ready. I think the earliest one of us started to get dressed and ready was around 30 minutes before the pictures. The women probably started 5-6 hours earlier.
I did not get to see my sister in her dress before the ceremony started. However, I could tell how beautiful she was going to be as they were all getting ready. The time spent making sure hair, makeup, ribbons, etc were all perfect. No bride needs these things to look beautiful, but the time spent certainly shows.
The night went by incredibly fast, and surprisingly I found myself wishing it would not end. Not that I was having fun dancing, because I would of avoided that all night if I could have. I just loved getting to talk with everyone, and see others enjoy themselves. I love watching people and seeing how they interact. I do not need to be on the dance floor to enjoy a song. Watching the ring bearer and flower girl dance is enjoyment enough for me. It was a night I certainly will cherish, and a night I hope my sister and Bradford will remember forever. If there is one thing the wedding showed me, it is that Bradford’s family is going to treat Rachel well. She is in good hands.
Below is the video I made for Rachel and Bradford. It is around 11 minutes long, so if you have the time I would recommend giving it a look. It was incredible getting to see some of the similarities our two families had growing up. Enjoy, and thanks for reading!!